Black love has shown to be a very beautiful thing. I've had it. I've lost it. So, I know how wonderful it can be. But, I also know how ugly it can get. It can be a power struggle, trade-offs of disrespect, cheating, people purposely attempting to "take" each other's men or women. Simply put, we must do better.
It's like you constantly have to be on guard for what your significant other might do. I'm not sure how people are learning what love is. But, it's not supposed to be that way. Your mate should be the last one you have to worry about stabbing you in the back. They're supposed to be the one person you can go to when everything in your world is going wrong.
It seems like the women use cheating, or the threat of, to gain "control" over her man. The men use the same, plus material things to gain their control. We've got the whole thing wrong, people. I'm not saying that no one has a pure, good-intentioned relationship. I just see too many tenuous ones, based on the aforementioned negative factors.
Black folks are the 1st ones to scream "DON'T DISRESPECT ME". Yet, we do the most disrespectful shit. Granted, you can't "take" someone who doesn't want to be taken. But, we intentionally try to do it, not even knowing if the object of our desire is in a position to be taken. If a woman I fancy is in a relationship & appears happy, I don't mess with it. There are too many good, single women out here. Even if she's not happy, I let that relationship run its course before even thinking about approaching her.
Being of "grown ass man" status, I am loyal. No need for me to cheat. If I'm not feeling you, I'll just make a decision to be single. It's too much damn work to come up with lies and then have to scramble to cover those lies. I press the "Easy" button & simply stay faithful.
I'm not going to give you my theses on the "divide and conquer" or "crabs in a barrel" mentalities. But, I imagine you get the picture. Will this little blog entry stop the BS? No. Hell no. Hopefully, it will give some of you something to think about, next time you go to do some disrespectful shit though.
It's simple. All we have to do is love and be loved. But, that isn't enough for a lot of you. Damn shame too.