Black love has shown to be a very beautiful thing. I've had it. I've lost it. So, I know how wonderful it can be. But, I also know how ugly it can get. It can be a power struggle, trade-offs of disrespect, cheating, people purposely attempting to "take" each other's men or women. Simply put, we must do better.
It's like you constantly have to be on guard for what your significant other might do. I'm not sure how people are learning what love is. But, it's not supposed to be that way. Your mate should be the last one you have to worry about stabbing you in the back. They're supposed to be the one person you can go to when everything in your world is going wrong.
It seems like the women use cheating, or the threat of, to gain "control" over her man. The men use the same, plus material things to gain their control. We've got the whole thing wrong, people. I'm not saying that no one has a pure, good-intentioned relationship. I just see too many tenuous ones, based on the aforementioned negative factors.
Black folks are the 1st ones to scream "DON'T DISRESPECT ME". Yet, we do the most disrespectful shit. Granted, you can't "take" someone who doesn't want to be taken. But, we intentionally try to do it, not even knowing if the object of our desire is in a position to be taken. If a woman I fancy is in a relationship & appears happy, I don't mess with it. There are too many good, single women out here. Even if she's not happy, I let that relationship run its course before even thinking about approaching her.
Being of "grown ass man" status, I am loyal. No need for me to cheat. If I'm not feeling you, I'll just make a decision to be single. It's too much damn work to come up with lies and then have to scramble to cover those lies. I press the "Easy" button & simply stay faithful.
I'm not going to give you my theses on the "divide and conquer" or "crabs in a barrel" mentalities. But, I imagine you get the picture. Will this little blog entry stop the BS? No. Hell no. Hopefully, it will give some of you something to think about, next time you go to do some disrespectful shit though.
It's simple. All we have to do is love and be loved. But, that isn't enough for a lot of you. Damn shame too.
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
I think most of us can agree that the r&b/hip-hop music scene has grown a little stagnant. Personally, I detest swag/trap music. Personal opinion aside, I had to share a sort of "discovery" with you. Being the host/executive producer of AudioSpazz Radio, I get a lot of music submissions from independent artists, who are trying to get their music heard. AudioSpazz provides that venue.
It was brought to my attention that a guy that I work my "9 to 5" with, was looking to speak to me about getting his music on the show. I met with this man, not really too enthusiastic about what he would present. A lot of the submissions I get are over-produced, lyrically subpar efforts. But, I'll never be too presumptious as not to give a listen. So, he gave me 2 songs. He was rocking braids and was a little soft-spoken, as if he was nervous. As a result, I half-expected a weak, "local" sounding hip-hop offering. Boy, was I wrong!
What hit my ears & damn near shorted out my brain, was a sound I never really heard before. The songs were very well-produced, had driving rhythms and live, screaming guitars. With a screen name like "ThugRockStar", you know I was sold. I immediately let this guy know that what he was doing has "legs". It's fresh and highly marketable. I asked him his "artist name" & he told me "Rebel Rose". His musical style belies his personality. The vocals are rich and pronounced, laid over a hybrid of hard-hitting beats, and razor-sharp guitar riffs he likes to call "Rock Hop Soul".
Rebel Rose told me about a project he was working on, and was very excited about. It involved a sample of a Jay-Z lyric as the hook. When he told me the concept, I got excited as well because I saw the potential. "Bad Girl" is a salute to the women who have all together. It was a great song, to begin with. However, the song was brought to the attention of Violator Management's Dave Lighty. Long story short, the song was presented to rapper, Pusha T, of The Clipse. Pusha dug the song and contributed a verse. "Bad Girl" was redone, and is an even stronger piece. Point blank, this song is a hit. A movement is quietly building. Rose calls it "The Rebelation" and it is near.
You can check "Bad Girl" out at bit.ly/14fHtAT Let me know what you think in the comments, or you can hit up Rebel Rose on Twitter, @RebelRose2020. He's also on Facebook at Rebel J Rose. Better do it now. I have a feeling his time is going to be at a premium...